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[24 Jul 2008|04:54pm] |
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ok, so.
lots of drama today, huh ladies?
I'm trying to think of a way to rationalize this, but really, i cant. I suppose I should default to something I believe in.
someone writes something offensive in a space we thought was safe, and perhaps we were comfortable with like minded folk. but we also have to appriciate that our opinions, the ones we write every day, could be seen as offensive to someone else. should we go on a witch hunt? can we really turn our back on a sister when she says something that offends us?
was it right? or pc? or agreeable? no. and for the record, i found myself cringing with offense.
but we cannot take our freedom to say the things on our minds for granted, and if we remove and censor, this group becomes something we dont want.
we are all subject to the same censor.
i wont stop you from demanding removal. and i am defending no one. i am only asking everyone to take a deep breath and wonder if we should allow our outrage to dictate what is an acceptable opinion or censorship.
cha, homies
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[24 Jul 2008|03:34pm] |
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I posted this comment on the entry where the poster ignorantly calls other women even those she konws nothing about prostitutes and easy whores and I also move to have her removed from the community.
I find your post and your derogatory comments very offensive. Who the hell do you think you are? Who are you to call people names. If I were of the mind set that you are I would call you small minded and insecure of yourself. It is the woman's right to choose to have sex with whomever she chooses and it is not your decision. If you don't want to have sex with that person then say I am not interested. Or you could have worded your entry a bit more differently like saying "relationships I feel should not be based on sex the bond should be deeper than that." and go from there. That way people can't/won't fault you for your feelings, but you start out your post by name calling and offending others. I find you insensitive and well a heinus bitch at least that is how I feel.
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[24 Jul 2008|01:28pm] |
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Has any seen the movie Gypsy 83? If you haven't you really need to.
It stars Sara Rue and Kett Turton as Gypsy Vale and Clive Webb. The movie is about two goth outcasts who leave Ohio for New York City (and that's all I'm going to tell you).
It's an awesome movie. A wonderful coming of age story.
Point of this post:
I think Sara Rue is pretty
But as Gypsy Vale... SHE'S DAMN SEXY! 
(Told you I have weird taste)
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Ugh, why is it so hard to meet lesbian girls my age from Orange County. I'm 16, and I'm looking for friends between 14-18, basically highschool years. Anyways, I know most of the ladies on here are older than that, and the few that are my age probably aren't from here, but would anybody happen to know any gay girls in that age spectrum living in my area? I know this is like...a long shot but I thought it was worth a try. =]
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[24 Jul 2008|11:57am] |
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[24 Jul 2008|11:22am] |
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Hey all,
I don't post here really, just tend to read and sometimes reply.
Here's the story! My gf comes home next month, and i am nervous as hell about it. We have been together around 3 years now but spent over a year of it apart due to her job taking her to the middle east. Bastards. We talk every day and keep things interesting via technology ;) But, i am on meds that totally slows down my sex drive, i seriously hardly ever masturbate lately and when i do, it kinda sucks. I'm so nervous she is gonna be upset if i cant perform like normal! We had a great sex life, both always willing to try new things, i don't want to lose that. I think once she is here, just seeing her will get me in the mood but the build up is killing me.
There's also the fact i have been living alone now for a while and i just hope i don't turn into super bitch once she's home. I've come to like my silent time!
Anyone dealt with the reunion after a long period apart? Were things the same as when you left off? Better? Worse?
I love this girl more than life itself so i know everything is going to be okay. Anxiety is a bitch.
Just looking for advice and/or experiences
Thanks : )
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[24 Jul 2008|09:51am] |
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Just thought some of you might be interested in the results from the most recent poll.
It's interesting, I think, that more of us identify as femme. 60.7% of are femme or very femme, 23% neither, and only 13.1% call themselves butch or very butch (the rest are other). But more of us act tomboyish than girly, even if we may look girly. Half are tomboyish, a quarter girly, and a quarter neither. And most of us (81.3%) wish we were a little easier to spot as being gay. And as for friends, most of us have less than half fit the stereotype...and quite a few of us have no lesbian friends at all! How sad! Lastly, very few who identify as butch seek out other butch girls, and over half (53.6%) are somewhere in between or don't have the butch/femme dynamic for whatever reasons.
So basically, stereotypes SUCK! And we need a better way to identify other girl-loving girls because clearly the "look" isn't at all accurate.
Thanks to everyone who participated in the poll :D
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[24 Jul 2008|08:18am] |
So, the AFA has called on a McDonalds Boycott because McDonalds is "supporting the homosexual agenda." you can read the article I read about it first here. You can also read about it on www.afa.net or www.boycottmcdonalds.com.
McDonalds has told them that there is "no room for hatred in our culture."
Go McDonalds on NOT giving in to the AFA! (how weird to say that).
(xposted to my journal.)
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[24 Jul 2008|10:56am] |
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So, I was on my way home from California.
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[24 Jul 2008|10:35am] |
Hi. ![[info]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) karmaa1974 removed a comment of mine suggesting this precise thing, which is well within her right.
So. I'll make my own post.
In response to her calling women who choose to have a more unstructured sex life hookers, dogs, and immoral overall -I am moving that we have her removed from the community.
Lesbian or not, that is hate-speech.
Note: She has since edited her entry/and or comments I think. I assume this is to avoid getting booted and erase evidence of her delightful bigotry. Either way, we have someone very anti-woman in our community. Please fix that.
Note: In the comments section- "Ostracizing other members for their beliefs/practices is what my problem is with. If I wanted her booted for her beliefs, I would be equally as guilty. She has every right to her opinion. However, she has NO right to mouth-off and call people names, propagating a long-standing stereotype that women have been fighting for decades." -
Degradation of the women in this community is unacceptable.
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[24 Jul 2008|10:22am] |
Ok this might sond really lame but I have a question. Does anyone here in this group have a hand gun in their house for proctection? I know sounds odd but here is a brief reason why I am asking.
Last night I fell asleep watching tv and woke up around 12:30ish. Turned off all the lights and crawled into bed next to my wife. Less then five minutes later the doorbell rang and I flew upout of bed grabbed my robe and peaked out the window. There was a white car in my driveway with two people in the car. I woke my partner up and said "there are people in the yard" we sat there to see if they would go away. They put the hood up on their car and some guy got out and messed around with some stuff and about 20 minutes later they left. Well they went across the street to the convenience store (which was already closed). I heard their car around the neighborhood for about the next 30 minutes. I was scared to death. And at that moment for the first time in my life I wished I had a handgun in the house.
Now in the cold light of day I am wondering if I am just being weirded out for nothing. But we do live in a small small town and deep in the south and I have all kinds of bumper stickers on my car announcing I am "family". Is it silly to be worried or do you think I should look into some form of protection for me and my wife?
(cross-posted)
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[24 Jul 2008|08:41am] |
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This is for females who tend to just give their pussi to just anyone. Why do you do it? And giving it up for free, easy sex. I mean even prostitutes have respect for themselves, they at least charge for their time. If you have to buy underwears, tampons, pants, shorts, bathing suit to cover your punai, oh and not to mention you have to buy soap to keep it clean and smelling good, why in the world you wanna just go around giving it out to just anybody, and for free. I'm not promotiing prostitution, but hey you aint no different from one, minus the free part. And you wonder way the person ditches you in a very short time, well, its because you were easy, and thats all they probably wanted any way. I'm just tired of females coming at me thinking its all about sex, when its not! If I offended anyone please do tell me.
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[24 Jul 2008|05:31am] |
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I was reading this morning and I found this article on Katy Perry. Thoughts?
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/25802385/
In my opinion it states pretty clearly the unease I felt when i first heard this song. But thats my opinion.
Yours?
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[24 Jul 2008|04:12am] |
So, I just found out that one of the local gay clubs, Splash, is going to be having a casting call or audition or whatever for Cycle 11 of America's Next Top Model.
I won't be entering the auditions, even though I would LOVE to. (I've got some pretty horrible scars on my torso that just wouldn't let me break into modeling.) But I will be going to cheer on a few friends and maybe see if I can work this flirting thing out.
But, anyway, wish me luck! And my friends luck! It would be so awesome to finally have someone from Louisiana on the show, and awesome to have more lesbian or bi contestants.
P.S. For anyone who watches ANTM, who thinks Kim should come back for a guest spot next cycle?
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| YEAH IT SO WENT THERE!! |
[24 Jul 2008|02:46am] |
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one word says it all!!! LAID!! ;) I was so not expecting it, it just happened.... thank gosh! just thought i share!
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so today i was told that i "dont look like a lesbian"....hmmmmm....i wasnt sure wat to say to that....(i mean i was wearing my "im gay" flashing sign and everything! haha)
buuuttt the stupid comment got me thinking that if i dont look gay maybe i dont attract girls? i dont know, stupid idea due to a stupid comment. wat do u guys think? would u just as well hit on a girl who didnt "look gay"?
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[23 Jul 2008|09:29pm] |
Hi Ladies!
I'm new to the community and am looking forward to discourse with you wonderful women.
Just a little background: I'm 24
just came out almost a year ago (i know, i know)
in a great relationship with a lovely lady.
since I dont have any other lesbian friends
my straight friends dont understand that dynamic
so i cant easily talk to them about my
relationship owes.
I'm hoping you ladies can be that open ear(or eyes)
that i need at times.
hasta luego! ;)
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[23 Jul 2008|11:29pm] |
Okay so I have the same problem, only its getting worse...
Recap on previous post...
I'm dating someone. Its my first attempt at dating in over a year since I got out of an abusive relationship. This girl is so much more amazing than I expected her to end up being. In another week it'll be about a month of dating. I told her how I felt in writing. I told her she makes me nervous, but I really like how its going. I told her I always end up missing her more than I want to, and that the more I get to know her, the more I like her.
Where we are now...
Today we fell asleep on each other. She played with my hair and held me in her arms and kissed me in such a gentle way. I'm really falling for her. I thought my fear would go away after we got to know each other better and I thought I would start trusting her, but I'm not. When I'm in her arms I feel so comfortable and safe, but only half the time. The other half I'm scared and feel like telling her that I don't have feelings for her, or be awful to her so she'll stop being so nice.
Whats wrong with me? Its been so long since I was being hurt by someone else and she's so nice and considerate and gentle. She's also ridiculously beautiful. I'm starting to get afraid to even look at her.
Things are progressing physically too. I feel like I need to tell her more about my past, or stop dating her. Except, I don't know how to begin to tell her what I've been through, and I really don't want to stop seeing her.
If you were dating someone for a few weeks and were getting closer, would you want to know that she was abused previously? How would you want to hear that? Do you think she'll want to stop seeing me if she knows? Do you think I should just stop dating her all together?
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I was on the phone with my friend Dee, the straight girl I made-out with the other day. She was bitching about our friend Reap, how he's such a slut and how badly she wants him back. I've realized heterosexuals make my head hurt or maybe my circle of friends really need to reach outside said circle more often. I'm half listening to her. I don't really care. Most girls want or have had Reap. Somehow we got on the topic of me and what I like in a woman.
I have to say, according to my friends at least, that I have sort of unique taste.
I guess my taste is unique because I seem to be attracted mainly to girls who are chubby, kind of girly (androgynous twist always a plus but not necessary), pierced, tattooed, pale, short, dark or unnaturally colored her, and who are on the nerdy or strange side. Plus a good personality and intelligence.
So, now I'm wondering what do you all like? What don't you like?
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